This Letter From A 27-Year-faded Who Was Dying Of Cancer Will Change Your Approach To Life
It’s a strange thing to realise and accept your mortality at 26 years young. It’s just one of those things you ignore. The days tick by and you just expect they will preserve on coming; Until the unexpected happens. I always imagined myself growing faded, wrinkled and grey- most likely caused by the pretty family (lots of kiddies) I planned on building with the esteem of my life. I want that so horrible it hurts.
That’s the thing approximately life; It is fragile, precious and unpredictable and each day is a gift, not a given right.
I’m 27 now. I don’t want to vanish. I esteem my life. I am gratified.. I owe that to my loved ones. But the control is out of my hands.
I haven’t started this ‘note before I die’ so that death is feared – I like the fact that we are mostly ignorant to it’s inevitability.. apart from when I want to talk approximately it and it is treated like a ‘taboo’ topic that will never happen to any of us.. That’s been a bit tough. I just want people to stop worrying so much approximately the small, meaningless stresses in life and try to remember that we low absorb the same fate after it low so enact what you can to develop your time feel worthy and much, minus the bullshit.
I absorb dropped lots of my thoughts below as I absorb had a lot of time to ponder life these final few months. Of course it’s the middle of the night when these random things pop in my head most!
Those times you are whinging approximately ridiculous things (something I absorb noticed so much these past few months), just assume approximately someone who is really facing a problem. Be grateful for your minor issue and regain over it. It’s okay to acknowledge that something is annoying but try not to carry on approximately it and negatively effect other people’s days.
Once you enact that, regain out there and hold a freaking expansive breath of that fresh Aussie air deep in your lungs, peer at how blue the sky is and how green the trees are; It is so pretty. assume how lucky you are to be able to enact just that – breathe.
You might absorb got caught in horrible traffic nowadays, or had a horrible sleep because your pretty babies kept you awake, or your hairdresser crop your hair too short. Your strange fake nails might absorb got a chip, your boobs are too small, or you absorb cellulite on your arse and your stomach is wobbling.
Let low that shit disappear.. I swear you will not be thinking of those things when it is your turn to vanish. It is low SO insignificant when you peer at life as a whole. I’m watching my body waste absent right before my eyes with nothing I can enact approximately it and low I wish for now is that I could absorb just one more Birthday or Christmas with my family, or just one more day with my partner and dog. Just one more.
I hear people complaining approximately how terrible work is or approximately how tough it is to exercise – Be grateful you are physically able to. Work and exercise may seem like such trivial things … until your body doesn’t allow you to enact either of them.
I tried to live a healthy life, in fact, that was probably my major passion. Appreciate your generous health and functioning body- even whether it isn’t your ideal size. peer after it and embrace how astonishing it is. race it and nourish it with fresh food. Don’t obsess over it.
Remember there are more aspects to generous health than the physical body.. work just as tough on finding your mental, emotional and spiritual happiness too. That way you might realise just how insignificant and unimportant having this stupidly portrayed perfect social media body really is.. While on this topic, delete any account that pops up on your news feeds that gives you any sense of feeling shit approximately yourself. Friend or not.. Be ruthless for your own well-being.
Be grateful for each day you don’t absorb pain and even the days where you are unwell with man flu, a sore back or a sprained ankle, accept it is shit but be thankful it isn’t life threatening and will disappear absent.
Whinge less, people! .. And wait on each other more.
Give, give, give. It is upright that you gain more happiness doing things for others than doing them for yourself. I wish I did this more. Since I absorb been sick, I absorb met the most incredibly giving and kind people and been the receiver of the most thoughtful and loving words and support from my family, friends and strangers; More than I could I ever give in return. I will never forget this and will be forever grateful to low of these people.
It is a weird thing having money to spend at the conclude.. when you’re dying. It’s not a time you disappear out and buy fabric things that you generally,normally would, like a strange dress. It makes you assume how foolish it is that we assume it is worth spending so much money on strange clothes and ‘things’ in our lives.
Buy your friend something kind instead of another dress, beauty product or jewellery for that next wedding. 1. No-one cares whether you wear the same thing twice 2. It feels generous. hold them out for a meal, or better yet, cook them a meal. Shout their coffee. Give/ buy them a plant, a massage or a candle and relate them you esteem them when you give it to them.
Value other people’s time. Don’t preserve them waiting because you are shit at being on time. regain ready earlier whether you are one of those people and appreciate that your friends want to share their time with you, not sit by themselves, waiting on a mate. You will gain respect too! Amen sister.
This year, our family agreed to enact no presents and despite the tree looking by a long shot downhearted and empty (I nearly cracked Christmas Eve!), it was so nice because people didn’t absorb the pressure of shopping and the effort went into writing a nice card for each other. Plus imagine my family trying to buy me a present knowing they would probably conclude up with it themselves.. strange! It might seem lame but those cards mean more to me than any impulse purchase could. intellect you, it was also easier to enact in our house because we had no itsy-bitsy kiddies there. besides, moral of the anecdote- presents are not needed for a meaningful Christmas. Moving on.
exercise your money on experiences.. Or at least don’t miss out on experiences because you spent low your money on fabric shit.
keep in the effort to enact that day trip to the beach you preserve putting off. Dip your feet in the water and dig your toes in the sand. Wet your face with salt water.
regain amongst nature.
Try just enjoying and being in moments by a long shot than capturing them through the screen of your phone. Life isn’t meant to be lived through a screen nor is it approximately getting the perfect photo.. be pleased the bloody moment, people! Stop trying to capture it for everyone else.
Random rhetorical question. Are those several hours you spend doing your hair and develop up each day or to vanish out for one night really worth it? I’ve never understood this approximately females 🤔.
regain up early sometimes and listen to the birds while you watch the pretty colours the sun makes as it rises.
Listen to music.. really listen. Music is therapy. faded is best.
Cuddle your dog. Far out, I will miss that.
Talk to your friends. keep down your phone. Are they doing okay?
Travel whether it’s your desire, don’t whether it’s not.
Work to live, don’t live to work.
Seriously, enact what makes your heart feel gratified.
Eat the cake. Zero guilt.
Say no to things you really don’t want to enact.
Don’t feel pressured to enact what other people might assume is a fulfilling life.. you might want a mediocre life and that is so okay.
relate your loved ones you esteem them every time you regain the chance and esteem them with everything you absorb.
Also, remember whether something is making you depressing, you enact absorb the power to change it – in work or esteem or whatever it may be. absorb the guts to change. You don’t know how much time you’ve got on this soil so don’t waste it being depressing. I know that is said low the time but it couldn’t be more upright.
besides, that’s just this one young gals life advice. hold it or leave it, I don’t intellect!
Oh and one final thing, whether you can, enact a generous deed for humanity (and myself) and start regularly donating blood. It will develop you feel generous with the added bonus of saving lives. I feel like it is something that is so overlooked considering every donation can save 3 lives! That is a massive impact each person can absorb and the process really is so simple.
Blood donation (more bags than I could preserve up with counting) helped preserve me alive for an additional year – a year I will be forever grateful that I got to spend it here on soil with my family, friends and dog. A year I had some of the greatest times of my life.
..’Til we meet again.